Problem Solved - How to Avoid the Top 5 Bridesmaid Dilemmas

After the initial congratulatory exclamations subside, distress can erupt on the bridesmaid front. From gripes about bridesmaids' dresses and wedding planning logistics, to deeper issues of insecurity and envy, even the best support systems can buckle under the strain. But you know that a blissful wedding day relies on a happy bridal party – and the best way to ensure that is to avert potential problems in advance.

Here is a list of common stumbling blocks on the road to a happy bridal party – and tips to avert them.

1. Dilemma - Attire Backfire
There is a reason for the clichéd status of the heinous bridesmaid dress – and that’s because some brides just don’t think before selecting the “perfect” ensemble for their ‘maids.
Problem Solved– seriously consider allowing your attendants (or maybe just your maid of honor) to help in the dress-selection process. You can designate a color and even the style, and let them find something that suits them. There really isn’t even a rule that says they all have to match.

2. Dilemma - Money Woes
No doubt about it – being a bridesmaid is a costly endeavor, and almost every wedding party in history has included some gripes about expenses.
Problem Solved - be considerate. Don't book the room block at a 5 star hotel; don't insist your bachelorette bash be an extravagant weekend at a fancy resort; don't mandate every girl get their hair and makeup done (unless you're footing the bill.) Remember – yours is probably not the only wedding they'll be in this year – or even this month – so try to mitigate expenses at every turn.

3. Dilemma - Green with Envy
It’s often hard for us to admit – but most girls do have a bit of a jealous streak. While it’s not always intentional, it can be difficult to be completely happy for your newly-engaged friend when faced with the prospect of being the last person sitting at the singles table.
Problem Solved – reach out. Arrange a girls’ night, and celebrate your ‘maids for a change. And don’t just talk about the wedding; ask them about their lives too. Just remember to always keep the lines of communication open and be a friend.

4. Dilemma - Enslaved 'Maids
OK - so your female friends aren’t exactly chomping at the bit to address 350 wedding invitations for you one night, followed by assembling 200 welcome baskets the next. But before you equate their slightly-less-than-enthused response with “worst bridesmaids ever,” condemnation, try to put yourself in their shoes.
Problem Solved – Remember that they’re your bridesmaids, not your slaves. While some of your wedding plans can be a group effort, keep the tasks within reason and try to make them fun. Add a bottle of wine, some cheese and crackers (your treat), and you’ve got yourself a fun little get together.

5. Dilemma - Cat Fight
The fact that a group of girls together often produces tension-filled results is an understatement. Disagreements can result amongst even the best of friends: perhaps your college friends don’t get along too well with your highschool friends, or your future sister-in-law may not quite see eye to eye with the rest of the crew.
Problem Solved – don’t get stuck in the middle. If you anticipate tension, designate one friend with keen peacemaking qualities to be the moderator. If possible try to introduce everyone at an informal event – before the shower or bachelorette party.